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What We Get When We Give
What We Get When We Give
By Christine Carter, PhD
Posted Feb 19, 2010
If you do a nice thing for someone else knowing you’ll reap some benefit
yourself, is it still a good deed? What if your primary reason for doing it is
because of the benefits it’ll bring you?
Researchers spend a lot of time debating whether any altruistic act is ever
truly selfless because we benefit so much when we are kind to others. I think
of kindness like laughter: we might be laughing because we want someone
else to feel good about their joke, but mostly we laugh because it feels good.
Like laughter, kindness is a terrific happiness habit, good for both our physical
and emotional well-being.
Did you know that kinder people actually live longer, healthier lives? People
who volunteer tend to experience fewer aches and pains. Giving help to
others protects overall health twice as much as aspirin protects against heart
disease. People 55 and older who volunteer for two or more organizations
have an impressive 44 percent lower likelihood of dying—and that’s after
sifting out every other contributing factor, including physical health,
exercise, gender, habits like smoking, marital status, and many more. This is a
stronger effect than exercising four times a week or going to church; it means
that volunteering is nearly as beneficial to our health as quitting smoking!
We feel so good when we give because we get what researchers call a
“helpers high,” or a distinct physical sensation associated with helping. About
half of participants in one study report that they feel stronger and more
energetic after helping others; many also reported feeling calmer and less
depressed, with increased feelings of self-worth. This is probably a literal
“high,” similar to a drug-induced high: for example, the act of making a
financial donation triggers the reward center in our brains that is responsible
for dopamine-mediated euphoria. (For more on the “helper’s high,” check
out this essay by James Baraz and Shoshana Alexander, published this
month on Greater Good.)
Finally, nearest and dearest to my heart, kindness makes us happy. Volunteer
work substantially reduces symptoms of depression; both helping others and
receiving help is associated with lowered anxiety and depression.
This may be especially true for kids. Adolescents who identify their primary
motive as helping others are three times happier than those who lack such
altruistic motivation. Similarly, teens who are giving are also happier and more
active, involved, excited, and engaged than their less engaged counterparts.
Generous behavior reduces adolescent depression and suicide risk, and
several studies have shown that teenagers who volunteer are less likely to fail
a subject in school, get pregnant, or abuse substances. Teens who volunteer
also tend to be more socially competent and have higher self-esteem.
It isn’t just that kind people also tend to be healthier and happier, or that
happy, healthy people are more kind. Experiments have actually
demonstrated again and again that kindness toward others actually causesus
to be happier, improves our health, and lengthens our lives.
So if we want to raise kids that are happy and healthy, one of the best things
we can do is teach them to be kind. Next week I’ll be giving some tips for
HOW to raise kind children, but for starters, we need to think about kindness
and generosity as a skill that we teach kids, and practice with them.
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What do your kids do to practice kindness? How have you encouraged
kindness, generosity, and altruism in your children? Please post your ideas in
the comments and I’ll incorporate as many as I can into next week’s posting.
Christine Carter, Ph.D., is a sociologist and happiness expert at UC Berkeley’s
Greater Good Science Center, whose mission it is to teach skills for a thriving,
resilient and compassionate society. Best known for her sciencebased parenting advice, Dr. Carter follows the scientific literature
in neuroscience, sociology, and psychology to understand ways that we can
teach children skills for happiness, emotional intelligence, and resilience. She is
the author of the new book Raising Happiness: 10 Simple Steps for More
Joyful Kids and Happier Parents and of a blog called Half Full. Dr. Carter also
has a private consulting practice helping families and schools structure
children’s lives for happiness; she lives near San Francisco with her family.
References:
Allen, Joseph P. et al., “Preventing Teen Pregnancy and Academic Failure:
Experimental Evaluation of a Developmentally Based Approach,” Child
Development 64, no. 4 (1997).
Benson, Peter L., E. Gil Clary, and Peter C.Scales, “Altruism and Health: Is
There a Link During Adolescence,” in Altruism and Health: Perspectives from
Empirical Research, ed. Stephen G. Post (New York: Oxford University Press,
2007).
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Luks, Allan, “Doing Good: Helper’s High,” Psychology Today 22, no. 10
(1988). Magen, Zipora, “Commitment Beyond Self and Adolescence,” Social
Indicators Research 37 (1996).
Moll, Jorge et al., “Human Fronto-Mesolimbic Networks Guide Decisions
About Charitable Donation,” Proceedings of the National Academy of
Sciences of the United States of America 103, no. 42 (2006).
Musick, Marc A. and John Wilson, “Volunteering and Depression: The Role of
Psychological and Social Resources in Different Age Group,” Social Science
& Medicine 56 (2003).
Oman, Doug, Carl E. Thoresen, and Kay McMahon, “Volunteerism and
Mortality among the Community-Dwelling Elderly,” Journal of Health
Psychology 4, no. 3 (1999).
Post, Stephen and Jill Neimark, Why Good Things Happen to Good
People(New York: Broadway Books, 2007).
Post , Stephen G., “Altruism, Happiness, and Health: It’s Good to Be
Good,” International Journal of Behavioral Medicine 12, no. 2 (2005).
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